Being a better you part 2: your body

Well hey there internet,

I have a large forehead
I don't like my hairline
I have a rather large bald patch in my eyebrow
I have dark circles that I just can't seem to get rid of
I don't like my nose at all
I don't like my chin
I don't like showing off my shoulders
I don't have a flat stomach
My outer thighs are quite big
I have these lumps and bumps from my waist down that you can only see if I was to wear anything tight which I don't really anyway but I still don't like them.

That was a  list of things about myself that I'm self conscious about.

So would it surprise you if I said I'm completely happy with myself?

Well I am.

It's hard to decide whether or not the media is making a difference on how young women feel about themselves.

In some ways it has, I'm going to use myself as an example. 

I'm only 17, so I practically grew up with the internet constantly by my side. I was brought up in a world where I was always told by family, friends and the internet that I shouldn't worry about my size  because I was fortunate enough to grow up in a society that was just starting to change their views about a woman and even a man's 'perfect shape.'

However, even in this day and age where there are loads of people in our society who are constantly encouraging the younger generation and pretty much everyone else to BE HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE! you still come across people who are incredibly self concious about themselves because they are comparing themselves to the celebrities who have probably gone through some horrific things just to change the way they look. 

Yes I do get self conscious about things, we all do and that's fine because that's who we are. 

 There isn't anyone in the world that would say "I love myself every single second of every day" because we all have times where we feel like poop and we all have things we don't like about ourselves.

But if you can say to yourself that none of that matters because YOU are happy with YOURSELF then you my friend have accepted yourself and can now live the rest of your life in peace knowing that you are perfectly fine the way you are.

You are wrong if you think that you will be accepted into a group of people if you look like and act like them because the truth is that you will not be accepted by anyone the way you want them to until you accept yourself first. 

And if that group of people still won't accept you then trust me they were not worth your time.

LISTEN TO ME!

 EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU OUT THERE IS AMAZING! YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND  YOU ARE ALL FUCKING SEXY IN YOUR OWN SPECTACULAR WAY.

DON'T YOU DARE LISTEN TO ANYONE ELSE WHO TELLS YOU ANY DIFFERENT.

And it breaks my heart and makes me so sad whenever I come across pictures of slit wrists or people posting pictures saying "I wish I was skinny" or this stupid thigh gap thing. You and your body do not deserve to be tortured like that.

It does not matter if you have big boobs or small boobs or average boobs.

It doesn't matter whether you have an arse or not.

It DEFINITELY doesn't matter whether you are curvy or slim.

You are you. you're gorgeous and stunning and others will love you if you just learn to love yourself.

It's ok if you workout, it's ok if you don't workout. It's okay to do your best to achieve the body you want, just don't stress yourself out about it because you're fine the way are. Don't try to lose weight to be like the 'others' do it for yourself. 

I am aware that I am being a little bit contradicting because I'm saying to accept who you are but I'm also saying it's ok to change yourself. That's why this topic is a little complicated. But I'm going to try my best to summarise this in a few sentences.

If you want to/are working out because you want to slim down or get toned or to just generally feel fit and healthy then that's completely fine. In fact, I encourage people to become fit and healthy because it makes such a positive difference in your life. So long as you are doing it for the right reasons.  And if you don't want to workout then that's also fine. But don't, and I'm begging you not to, harm your body in any way for the sake of other people. and don't harm yourself full stop (will talk about this another time) 

Now ...I want you to do me favour. Do you think you can do it?

If you know someone in your life who ...shall we say...isn't confident with themselves then please send them this.

And if you are that person reading this then I know you're probably thinking "Why on earth should I listen to a 17 year old girl who probably cries because her celeb crush is 'so beautiful'"

Firstly, YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE FEELS OK? I JUST... I CAN'T. (kidding...kinda)

Secondly, I know that I am no expert on any of this. But I am a young person just trying to make the world a better place and wants everyone to know how awesome they are.

And no I am not trying to suck up to anyone because who exactly am I sucking up to? this blog isn't aimed for a specific person.It's just me sharing my opinion and my message to the world.

And I would like it if you guys could share this too, 

Not because I want loads of people to view my blog (although that would be pretty cool) but because I want to help those who are struggling and I want to help them realise that they are awesome.

Question of the day: what is one thing you like about yourself? and your answer can not be 'nothing' it doesn't need to be a physical thing, maybe you are really creative or you like expressing yourself.

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CYA :D